the perfect man

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as you get older, your priorities change. hence my new perfect man:

has not spent time in a mental institution.
this isn’t to say that people who have spent time in such places are wholly unworthy life companions, but they do tend to bring along an extra element of baggage that, honestly, i just don’t have the energy to deal with any more.

has a car.
i’m not materialistic. i won’t snub a guy because his car is crappy, but owning a car shows a certain level of responsibility that i’m looking for in a partner.

has a job.
again, he doesn’t have to make shitloads of money, but he does have to get up and go to work most every day. again, this shows a certain level of responsibility which is desirable in a mate.

laughs.
he knows humour. not just “knock, knock” or blonde joke humour, either. he sees the irony and entertainment in everyday life. he’s quick and quirky and, most of all, laughs at my jokes. even when they’re horrible.

likes kissing just as much as making love.
okay, so i stole this line from an episode of witchblade, but it’s completely perfect. sometimes, i’d rather kiss for two hours with all my clothes on than do anything else. he’s got to, too.

is curious about the world.
he has to wonder about things. curiosity is a function of intelligence. if he’s interested in figuring things out, then he’s got an agile mind and smart men are sexier than anything else.

lives no further than two hours (by car) away.
this one is courtesy of my jeremy. he’s convinced me that long-distance relationships are difficult and detrimental to emotional well-being. god, i hate it when he’s right.

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14 Thoughts on “the perfect man”

  1. Mel on May 10, 2004 at 09:32 said:

    Now, would you bend on the car issue if he was environmentally responsible? Say he’s got a job that’s completely accessible by transit, and doesn’t need a car. What then?

  2. heather on May 10, 2004 at 09:51 said:

    well, everything is negotiable.

  3. (that other)Heather on May 10, 2004 at 09:59 said:

    You forgot willing to eat non fried vegetables.

  4. bruce on May 10, 2004 at 10:47 said:

    hmm…. what were the old priorities? And how often to these priorities get revised downward? What can we expect in say.. five years?
    “new perfect man; not married, thinks I’m sexy… that’s all”.
    mmm yup… thats about where I stand.

  5. bruce on May 10, 2004 at 10:48 said:

    .. except I would be looking for a perfect women.
    :-)

  6. heather on May 10, 2004 at 10:50 said:

    i forgot single and thinks i’m sexy. hm.
    the previous description is here: http://fubsy.net/blog/archive/001805.php

  7. jenny on May 10, 2004 at 11:00 said:

    How about: Does not live with his parents.
    In my personal preference scale, I’d list that above car ownership, although since I own a car, I would be afraid that a man who didn’t would always be up in my shit to borrow mine.

  8. col on May 10, 2004 at 16:22 said:

    ooh what about smokers?

  9. heather on May 10, 2004 at 16:40 said:

    okay, people, you should realize this is very obviously not a definitive list.
    if it were there would be mention of: not smoking, not doing drugs, not drinking more than twice a week, not living with any relatives, loving movies, kittens and scratching my back.
    even that’s just a partial list not including: great dental hygeine, stubble, tall, dark, deep-voiced, and wearing obsession for men because he knows how much it drives me wild.

  10. bruce on May 10, 2004 at 19:09 said:

    Its girl’s like you that are my problem.. you, with your standards.
    has a job…
    has a car…
    You’re killing us here!

  11. cyclone on May 10, 2004 at 20:18 said:

    does prison count as a mental institution?

  12. heather on May 10, 2004 at 20:22 said:

    i’ve never thought about that. hm, i don’t think it does.

  13. Dan on May 11, 2004 at 16:30 said:

    I’d imagine that a guy who’s spent time in a mental institution would be predisposed to having less baggage than the normal man. I mean, they’ve had professional help. At the very least, they should be open and understanding to whatever baggage you have, right?
    And, if you live in a large city with decent public transit isn’t owning a car a tad irresponsible? Go for the guy with the apartment downtown, he’s made a larger financial commitment AND he’s thinking about more than just his personal convenience.
    What if he has a job where he works on his own time with his own hours? Not everyone works nine to five, and it’s not just flaky artists I’m talking about. For example, contractors.
    I’m down with the kissing. That makes sense… I mean, gotta have similar interests and all. :)
    I’m very much in agreement with the curiosity bit. People who aren’t curious and aren’t open to new concepts are very… Dead. There’s no other way to describe them. They’ve gone from being people to being sheeple.
    -Dan

  14. mkh on May 12, 2004 at 12:18 said:

    Damn, I was doing okay until that last one.

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